WHY PRONOUNS MATTER AND TIPS TO STOP SCREWING UP

It’s the worst feeling isn’t it. You love someone, you see their true self, you respect them and want to show them just how much you’ve got their back— and then you drop the bomb. You’ve been so concerned with getting it right and loving them that you actually screw up huge and use the wrong pronoun. It’s all you can hear, it’s all the beautiful transgender person you’re talking to can hear, it echoes like you’re trapped alone in a cave and every whisper is heard.

You want to collapse into yourself but you don’t know how to fix it and neither do they, so you both just silently move on. You hoping they didn’t notice and wanting to explain, them holding back the tears.

This is the best case scenario. The worst happens to so many people day in and day out again and again as people make no attempt to correct themselves or each other. Often they don’t even notice (or care) that they’re walking around with a sledge hammer breaking toes as they throw around their words like grenades.

These things matter to us. We as a community are bruised and broken, but we are also seeing more hope than ever before, because for what feels like the first there are people out there standing up for us with nothing to gain for themselves other than a better, more compassionate world.

The fact that we are having these conversations about pronouns in the mainstream is a success in itself that I didn’t expect when I was coming out to myself and Katherine 4-ish years ago. So thank you friend for having these conversations.

I want to keep having so more of them with you, so please share, comment and let me know what other videos like this you’d like me to make. Hopefully together we can create a library of resources so we can all understand each other, love each other and respect each other even more. I’m so grateful for you all! Thanks for being a part of our family!

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FOR TIPS AND BEST PRACTICES ON SUPPORTING YOUR TRANSGENDER FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES WITH THE SIMPLE USE OF THE RIGHT PRONOUNS